Compliments

Are we really in an age where nobody knows how to accept a compliment? Two nights ago I decided people were too down and I’d seen too many arguments. I figured I’d share some lover and happiness.

I sent messages to several different people complimenting them and telling them what i like about them. The majority of the people I messaged asked if I had been drinking and didn’t believe me at first that I hadn’t touched a drop.

Next came a reserved thank you, ‘thanks but I’ve not done anything. Honestly I’m not that great.‘ Well if I thought that I wouldn’t have told you otherwise. You don’t have to explain yourself to me either.

One friend even thought I sent her a message by mistake! Honestly believing it wasn’t for her. Today I tried complimenting another person during our conversation and he denied the compliment.

Such pessimism shouldn’t exist. We arena perfect of course but we
each have qualities that atleast one other person likes. I shall continue go compliment until people accept it.

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Parent Information Workshop PIP CAFCASS

Workshop Purpose

  • To make parents more aware of the effect of separation on their children.
  • To make it clear that continuing conflict specifically over contact is not in the best interests of the children.
  • To provide parents with options and ideas about how to change things for the better by improving communication skills promoting workable solutions.

Who and when to attend

  • Any parents who are separating or have separated and are concerned about the affect their situation is having on their children.
  • When parents have lost sight of their children’s needs due to their ongoing conflict.
  • When parents find that their feelings and reactions about the separation are affecting their ability to communicate about their children.

Workshop Content

The Separation and Divorce Process

An explanation of:

  • The context of the process;
  • The emotional side of things;
  • The legal/ financial side of things;
  • Practical issues/options;

An understanding that separation or divorce is a journey – not an event.

What children need

Including:

  • How do children experience and respond to separation/ divorce?
  • How can you help them to adjust?
  • Understanding the impact of conflict on everyone involved.
  • Identifying children’s needs during this time.
  • Completion of a parenting questionnaire to identify their strengths to assist changes to be made.

Parent Communication

Including:

  • Review of the parenting questionnaire;
  • Understanding changes or blocks to change and gaining different perspectives on common disagreements;
  • Imagining children’s futures conversations about this time in their life, learning how to listen and respond when communicating
  • Managing difficult conversations by developing a businesslike relationship focusing on what they can control;
  • Helping children adjust to households.

Emotions

Including:

  • Emotions and stages of loss, understanding of how strong feelings can affect behaviour
  • Revisiting the separation/ divorce journey and identifying any changes made/ being considered to assist them moving forward.

Now, I’ll explain. This is a course I shall be doing at 10am 15th August 2012, why? My ex took me to court to see our child (despite my never actually stopping him as I’ve said all this in previous posts) well it’s taken from March until now to happen.. Except my ex doesn’t have to go or he hasnt had a letter through anyway.. None of these really affect me. I don’t have to do with my ex really so it doesn’t affect the way I parent.

Aunt Flo and Family.

Good evening folks, feels such a long time since I last posted.

Well a quick update? I have been stressed out of my arse.

My fathers mother passed away a few weeks ago, it was agreed not to go on facebook.

I literally saw a message from my mother (who decided not to wake me as there was nothing I could do) seconds before my cousins facebook posts, and my aunts.. Erm? My sister did however find out via facebook which isn’t right.  They have the cheek to talk about my family, treating us like crap? They don’t follow their own rules.

Next. My aunt Flo was due to visit on the 8th. I was rather worried about her lack of communication and she didn’t turn up until the 12th. Buggary. Was I scared or what! Worried for poor A.F. But she turned up and has now gone away until her next visit! Wasn’t too bad!

Trolls

In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory,extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion. The noun troll may refer to the provocative message itself, as in: “That was an excellent troll you posted.”

While many webmasters and forum administrators consider trolls a scourge on their sites, some websites welcome them. For example, a New York Times article discussed troll activity at 4chan and at Encyclopedia Dramatica, which it described as “an online compendium of troll humor and troll lore”. This site and others are often used as a base to troll against sites that their members can not normally post on. These trolls feed off the reactions of their victims because “their agenda is to take delight in causing trouble”.

Wikipedia

So, I think it is time we learn about the trolls of the internet. Some people need to more than others I discovered tonight after what was supposed to be a quick look on Stalkbook –Yes. I mean Facebook but really it’s a breeding ground for stalkers, no?

Well anyway. I was added to a group called “Petititon to get the page dead baby jokes banned off fb” See here for the post I made. In short I stated this kind of group is pointless as the group has been up for about 5 years, they change it slightly each time its reported to keep it alive. There have been lots of groups (I’ve been added to atleast 30) all wanting to close the page down.. They all failed.

When will people learn, trolls want attention, fuss and reaction. The idea of what the group does, sickens me. But will I go ranting and raving on it (and I know I’ve now had my part in feeding them with this blog) they will get their kicks out if it. I should know this. I do it on occassion in chatrooms. – Not to that extent though, just a bit of fun between people I ‘know’ and the moderators love me so I cant be that bad. 😀

Instead the guy in the group just got mouthy at me using my young age against me then accused me of being one of the people who set the sick page up.. Uhm. I think know a bit more about the internet than him considering I am the generation of the internet and computers mostly!  I know this kinda thing. I ended up being blocked for stating the unwanted obvious truth though..

But please people, please learn. A troll will get you and affect you if you let it. The best way to deal with it is to ignore it completely even if you are offended by them. If you react even the slightest. They win.