Christmas

I love Christmas, who doesn’t? Okay I get there are groups of people who disagree with it either for religious beliefs or personal ones – fair enough for them. Christmas is a widely celebrated holiday whether it is seen as religious or commercial depends on the individual. Although I am religious myself (maybe another day we will discuss my aspect of that) I view Christmas as commercial, a nice family holiday for happiness and spending quality time with those who you love; so I shall focus on that view.

I was having a conversation the other day about gifts; mum decided she can’t afford to spend much on myself and the others in my family. I hear others complain they are too poor for Christmas. This saddened me, have we really become that materialistic? Everyone seems to be competing on how much they cache spend and whether they have bought the best gift. I admit. I was one too. Trying to keep up with the latest gifts and gadgets a available for people to enjoy. Is this really what Christmas is all about? Well no wonder we are in debt and people are losing touch – we are working too much to afford the pointless luxuries. What happened to family games and general company; using the time to relax and enjoy eachother. If a gift is given there was great care and love, if an item it may last a lifetime rather than five minutes. Are we really that materialistic that as a population the word Christmas goes with “broke” “skint” “on demand”?

I for one would rather someone come to me with love and care, even a handmade or atleast really thought out gift than give me something I will never see again until spring clean.

This year why don’t you join me and put though and care into your gift rather than money?

Shallow

Shallow. It is a word often used derogatively, meaning;

“Lacking of depth; Superficial

I hear all the time “I care for his/her personality I don’t care what she/he looks like” but really now? If you’re being totally honest? You don’t care about their looks at all? After some thinking I realised something.

I do care; I care about how a person looks. Is it wrong to admit you have a different taste to say; your best friend? That although she finds a very skinny or very fat guy attractive, you find it repulsive? Could you honestly say you’d ignore your feelings of repulsion because they have a fantastic personality? If you can let me add in this, could you be physical with the person? I know I couldn’t I’d have to be somewhat attracted to a person before I got physical no matter how much I loved them but if not physical and just together enjoy the company – I’m not sure I could go my life without sex or intimacy of any sort due to physical dislike – I could for medical reasons but I think I, and a lot of people may end up straying due to lack of – this is often the cause of relationship failures; including marriage.

I know from my past how someone can ‘grow’ on you. I’ve had an ex who I never really found attractive at first but after awhile I grew to enjoy it but can someone be too far from the mark?

Love

A long time ago I was asked for my definition of love. So, here it is.

Love,
Every dream and want change in the direction of making it part of you.
An unconditional feeling, that no matter what you do, I’ll always be here.
Every time I’m with you. I’m in heaven.
When I’m not with you, I’m missing you, Going crazy and being excited about next time.
Even in the middle of our rows. I just want to be with you and cuddle you.
To be in your arms.
Love is a choice my heart chose.

You cannot see love, but can feel it.
Whenever I’m thinking, it is you I think of.
Whenever I dream, it is you I dream of.
I can be really busy with something, yet it is you on my mind.
I can’t imagine being without you again.
It was hell the first time.

Love is different for everyone, which is why there is confusion.
My love will die for you.
Love is “for richer and for poorer, and ’til death do us part.”
I told you I’d love you forever.. That’ll never change.

There is no right or wrong definition.
It comes differently to everyone.
I feel secure with you.
I trust you with my life. I may not fully with other things.
But with my life, I trust.

“Love is where the other person’s happiness is essential to your own.”

Heartbreak

I’m a firm believer in love can break a heart. I believe that in that short moment someone experiences the loss of something they truly love it causes the heart to break. Be it a partner, a relative, or a pet.

The emotional loss, the depression that comes with it. Whatever age you are, in my view it is possible to experience it in some shape or form. Whether a child who loses his favourite toy – in their sense they think of it alot, asking for it, unable to understand where it has gone – my friends child did this and it was awful to see, for a month he asked for and cried for a toy that he had lost. To a person who loses their pet or maybe an adult who loses their life long partner.

People laugh and do not take the youth seriously when they’re inlove. They say “you cant be inlove at that age” I do believe they’re wrong – can you remember being young? Your first love, whether you see now it may not have been love as you experience. But it was love no less, the hurt you felt when it ended.

There are people who say they felt physical pain; experienced heart attacks because of that heartbreak. I believe once upon a time I experienced it. Perhaps it was just simple panic attacks and depression, however I don’t believe it could have been entirely.

There is a scientific reasoning behind it; According to the Mayo Clinic

Broken heart syndrome is a temporary heart condition brought on by stressful situations, such as the death of a loved one. People with broken heart syndrome may have sudden chest pain or think they’re having a heart attack. These broken heart syndrome symptoms may be brought on by the heart’s reaction to a surge of stress hormones. In broken heart syndrome, a part of your heart temporarily enlarges and doesn’t pump well, while the remainder of the heart functions normally or with even more forceful contractions.

The condition was originally called takotsubo cardiomyopathy. Today, it’s also referred to as stress cardiomyopathy, stress-induced cardiomyopathy or apical ballooning syndrome. The symptoms of broken heart syndrome are treatable, and the condition usually reverses itself in about a week.

There are the five stages of heartbreak – which are the  Five stages of Grief these are;

  1. Denial – The refusal to accept what has happened.
  2. Anger – Whether angry at yourself or others, you may flip like a switch and hit out at anyone – even those who they have close relationships with.
  3. Bargaining – The trying to be in their life in some shape or form – being friends or trying to ‘bump’ into them by ‘accident’ of course if you have lost to death this isn’t possible.
  4. Depression – The feeling of emotional detachment, here comes sadness, regret and fear. During this stage people may comfort eat or drink. Perhaps even more serious things such as suicide or self harm happens in this stage. However the reality is starting to kick in.
  5. Acceptance – the upward stage, finally accepting it is over, the person is gone. Although not neccessarily happy for a long time it is the new beginning.

The stages do not need to be in order, and I personally feel I am proof of this. My relationship ended and due to personal reasons I skipped the 2nd stage – anger.  Infact I went through my break up with the man I once loved; Denial, Depression, Barganing, Acceptance, Anger. I am in the anger stage now I think. Although I accepted it – infact it was I, who ended it. I’ve been stuck in the anger for months. Angry at what happened.

But a friend once told me something, I’ll remember it for life, and I tell people it often.

“It’ll be okay in the end. If it’s not okay. It’s not the end.”

The great escape story

I created this for a competition in ’09

If you know ferrets, you know they’re great escapists – little houdinies. A few weeks ago, Bella and Ivy opened the cage stashing the kits away from the cage, even with the cage being shut more securely it seems it must hapen again.
Bella, the sandy colour ferret must fancied some out time.
The owner of these fabulous creatures today lost the keys to the shed – where the rest of the ferrets were in. In her hunt of unlocking it again a few viewers joked saying things like, “They’re creating an escape committee” – fourferrets, about the little things.
At approximately 1:33am many viewers witnessed The Great Escape Bella feeling the need for some freedom maybe or her maternal instincts coming on too strong for her heart to bare.
Bella opened the cage – risking breaking her teeth, taking atleast three kits with her when Ivy quickly helped her remove the kits from the cage – all of which have opened their eye and are keen to explore, hiding them in a place where they may have been endangered.
Frantic viewers gathered trying to contact the owner, finally reaching her at 3:30am where she and her husband woke up from their slumber to put the kits back to bed, comforting the viewers stating “The dog that ignores them was in with us and the entire flat is ferret proof so if they did get out of the living room they’d be okay”
When found it is said the kits all but one were under the sofa, the one who wasnt was in a top that had accidently been left out on the floor.
Lets just hope there isn’t a Great escape – Part 2.